NEW DECADE

It’s no secret… I’M FORTY!!!!

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Me at 40

Wow, I can’t believe it.  As a child it seemed like it was so far away and now it’s right here with me.  Forty seemed soooo old.  Suddenly, I was closer to 40 than 20.  I don’t mind growing old, actually I feel proud to be 40.  I feel like my life has just started.

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Me at 36

So what does turning 40 mean to you?  I have some friends who have embraced it and others who have avoided it like the plague. They won’t tell you that they are 40, or any age.  We have all been told, not to ask a lady her age.  However, I love it, because it usually follows with doubt and I then get to explain I have a 16 (almost 17) year old.  Now they could be pumping my head up, but hey I’ll take it!!

Not sure why someone could not enjoy growing old. I could do without the aches and pains, but for me I am ready for the fabulousness of 40!!!

Forty just seems like it is, I don’t know, POWERFUL. I feel like I am actually a grown woman.  I mean, a real woman who has worked for a few decades, had a couple businesses, become very comfortable and strong in my own skin.  I have learned and continue to learn to love me from the ends of my curly hair to my very long toes!!!  Forty is just FABULOUS, or at least I plan to make it so!!

I feel more amazing older, than in my youth (just missing the energy of my youth).  I feel like that now with my daughter preparing to graduate, I really get to focus on me (but we know it will always be about her!!).

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Me at 33

I mean my blog is really been my open diary and showing how I have worked to release myself of the bondages of my 30s. I have released people, things, jobs, and so on to become a healthier and happier me.  30 has been amazing and I know I grew tremendously, but 40, I feel is offering me a whole new opportunity of a new life and I plan to take full advantage of it.

This past decade has had many ups and downs. The ups were new friendships, many new experiences, travel, being open and honest about my feelings, communication, and learning to have more fun again.  I have had a many deaths that hit my heart and soul, but I have also seen the births of some amazing kids.  I have seen marriages, divorces, life, death, career changes, unemployment, doubt, weight loss, weight gain, long hair, short hair.  I got married at 30 and now in my 40’s, it’s time to really enjoy it!!!

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Somewhere in my 30s

The last year has been a true challenge of spirit, but at the same time I know I have grown so much in this skin of mine.  I have learned to love myself much more, to check in with myself even more, to make sure to be more present (mentally and physically), to celebrate who I am, and to be appreciative.  I have also been sure to ask from others what I need and want.  I can no longer just accept whatever anyone wants to give me, if it is below my standard.  This may be selfish, but hey, I can live with that.

When was the last time you were a little selfish in your self-care?  When was the last time you make sure to check in with yourself on your feelings, emotions, thoughts, place, job and so on? I believe when I am healthy, my relationships are healthy, my career is great, and life is on point. So being a little selfish goes a long way (as long as it is not detrimental to you).

I hope that you all take time to truly celebrate all the parts that make you who and what you are.

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Until next time,

Mercia

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